14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut) - Proverbs 13:3
Proverbs 13:3 - Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.
Ouch! If ever there was something to learn it is this. I’ve been working on it for nearly 57 years and I still don’t know if I have got it… cause I don’t. From the first goo-goo to my latest rambling there is a common thread. I talk too much. My mother used to call me a “chatter-box.”
It isn’t always what you say but how you say it. And it isn’t always how much you say but knowing when to stop. And it isn’t always whether you know what your talking about as much as knowing when to talk about it. So it can be prudent to keep a tight lid on your tongue. Human communications can be complicated indeed!
Now I’m not saying that you can’t speak your mind. But If you do be sure you think and rethink of the consequences before you do. Make sure that it is really worth it.
Another thing is that it is not about whether you are right or not. You can be 100% right and still be 100% wrong. You don’t have to prove your point. In fact, most people who press their point even when they are right often end up causing themselves more stress because people resent it (especially if you say, “I told you so”.)
I’m also not talking about giving up on communication all together and sitting in silence. Solomon said to guard your lips. That means to make sure that what you have to say is necessary and helpful. I can’t tell you the number of times that I have been right in my cause but still managed to get myself in a heap of trouble.
My father used to say, “Better that people think you are a fool than to open you mouth and remove all doubt.” He also had other gems of wisdom like, “Don’t open your mouth and let your brain go on parade,” or “Make sure to put your brain in gear before you open your mouth.” Of course my favorite one that he used to tell me when I was talking too much was “you need to let your tongue cool down before your head catches fire.”
God heard all my parents prayers and concern for the “chatter-box” and put him to work in His kingdom as a preacher! Who would have guessed?
One of the things we can do to reduce stress is to listen more and talk less.
PRAYER THOUGHT: Dear Almighty God; My mouth can be my worst enemy. Yet, It can also sing beautiful praises to you, pray heartfelt prayers, and speak powerful sermons. I ask you to use my mouth for your glory. Let beautiful psalms roll off my tongue. Let my lips proclaim your majesty and wonder. And tell me when to be silent too. In Jesus’ name, AMEN!